How was your weekend? I spent mine working, but the boys had fun. My son had yet another birthday party to go to on Saturday. Since I only have a boy, I am at a loss for what to buy a 4 yr old little girl. Since our kids have more than they need, I tend to buy books as birthday gifts. There is not better gift than the gift of reading, in my opinion. The ladies at Chapters were super helpful and they recommended: Fancy Nancy Storybook Treasury and Tea Time with Sophia Grace and Rosie (this one was featured on Ellen). So if you need any gift ideas for toddler girls, these books are supposed to be fabulous and very popular, and not your typical princess books.
Today’s outfit is one that I would describe as the perfect casual outfit. The reason why I say that is because it’s comfortable, trendy, versatile, it’s put together, simple, stylish and effortless looking. For something to be comfortable, it doesn’t mean that you have to be in Lululemon pants. These red crop pants from the Gap, for example, are not only comfortable but extremely versatile. I chose to wear a simple stripe top with it added a jean jacket, accessorized it with a polka dot scarf, cute nude bow ballet flats, this amazingly versatile purse from Banana Republic and added this fabulous turquoise bubble necklace. The jacket and scarf keep me warm and when I take them off, the bubble necklace pops.
Jean Jacket, Top _ Pants (Gap). Shoes (Aldo). Scarf (Jacob). Necklace (Etsy). Purse (Banana Republic).
So moms, as you can see you can still be comfortable and dress stylish and chase after your kids!!!. This outfit is also perfect, because each of these pieces are so versatile and can be worn many different ways with many different outfits.
Finding Your Identity
As I was driving to the Stella _ Dot Summer launch party last week I got to thinking about my identity. I remember after having my son, my identity was primarily “Aiden’s Mom”. I was no longer just Agi, Greg’s wife, a daughter, a sister, a nurse, I was now defined as someone’s mother. At first I didn’t even think about it and as the months, and year went by, I didn’t want to just be defined as Aiden’s mother. Don’t get me wrong, being my son’s mother is the best label, identity I can have, but somewhere along the way, I lost who I was. I came into this world as Agnes, not as someone’s mother and I knew that I needed to get that back.
Even though I went back to work, as a casual, working primarily on weekends, I still felt like I had lost who I was. I can only imagine how stay-at-home moms must feel. Sure you love being so and so’s mother, but what about you? It helped me a lot to get out and start meeting other moms. I joined a Mom _ Baby hiking group, then I joined a Mom _ Baby workout group, then I became involved in the Coquitlam Mom’s _ Dad’s Group and I started to slowly get myself back. Before having my son, I was an avid reader. It took me a while before I got back into reading. I am so glad that I joined the group because I am now the organizer of the book club. It’s so nice to get together with other moms and share our stories with one another. They remind me that I am not alone and that most of us feel the same way. I felt like I was getting part of the old me back.
We get so absorbed in looking after our kids, making sure they are ok, that the house is running properly, that the bills are paid, etc that we forget to take care of ourselves. I started doing more things for myself, started to discover who I was, discovered new interests and hobbies. In January of 2011 I decided to take a cake decorating course at Michaels. At first I took it primarily to be able to make and decorate birthday cakes/cupcakes for my son. I soon discovered that I really liked it, started making cakes/cupcakes for friends and now have Agi’s Creations. Last July, I decided to start a blog. By exploring new interests and hobbies, I tapped into parts of me that I didn’t even know existed. I get satisfaction from making creative cakes/cupcakes and by writing my blog. Don’t get me wrong, being Aiden’s mom and watching him grow up has by far given me the most satisfaction. What I’m talking about is giving me satisfaction on a different level. Like I’m not just someone’s mom, I’m me. I’m giving myself back my identity.
I’ve spoken with many moms who struggle with their “new” identity and how to find themselves again. The answer is different for all of us, but what I do know is that by finding things for yourself, you become a better person, wife and mother. Your kids see a different you, they see you excel at other things, besides them. One mom I know is taking classes just for her own knowledge and I find that amazing. It’s not for school or marks, it’s for herself. I know it’s not always easy to find time, but I truly believe that if you really want to do something, you will make the time.
The next time you find yourself down and need a break, head out to a coffee shop and open a paper and see what local classes they have, or join a gym or yoga, or whatever. The point is to do something for yourself!!!! Think about doing something that will make you happy, will re-energize and rejuvenate you. The more you take care of yourself, the better mother, wife, friend and person you will be.
May this blog inspire you to put together some chic, casual outfits and to do something for yourself. To find things that bring you joy and satisfaction.
Happy Monday Everyone!!!!